Yea I can't stand that empty chit-chat you're referring to, ID. One thing, to kind of get off the beaten path a little, that I've noticed works well with women: not talking about that BS. I actually make it a point not to talk about any of that mindless day-to-day crap when approaching a girl, and instead just ask for her opinion on if it's true that people who wear polka-dots are smarter than those who don't (or whatever).
