My parents are annoying me.

[Nathan]

My parents, specifically my mom lately has really been getting rather annoying. It seems like shes asking questions more now about everything then ever before.

For starters, im 19 years old, and still live at home. Its summer now, and I have a part time job. Other then that, I just chill at home or with my friends. Youd think at this point in my life id feel the most free and trusted, but it seems like recently my parents are treating me like im young again.

I do not lie to my parents, almost never. If I do, I feel guilty as hell. I feel like ive been more honest with my parents lately then ever. However, at the same time I feel the least trusted. What the fuck is going on?

I think I have a pretty typical 19 year old lifestyle right now. I get drunk with my friends occasionally, and nearly all of my friends smoke pot. At least where im from thats pretty typical. I dont smoke pot, but I do drink. My mom keeps asking me if I do, and I keep telling her no, but she doesnt believe me. She probably knows nearly all of my friends do, and she keeps trying to tell me how bad it is, but that doesnt mean im gonna go on a crusade here and try to save all my friends. If they want to do it thats fine, I have enough self control to say no whenever they are.

I honestly dont even know what the point of this thread is right now, but this evenings conversation with my mom is fresh on my mind, and kinding pissing me off. Maybe she knows that im telling the truth now more then ever, and shes using that to her advantage to get all details out of me? Shes killing me, im 19 years old, yes I live in your house, but im an adult, get off my case all the time. Im not stupid, im not going to go do some crazy shit and start smoking crack and shooting up heroine.

Her constant worrying about me, kind of worries me, and limits the amount of fun I can have now and I hate it. Shes almost got me to the point that I feel guilty hanging out with my friends, or drinking, or anything for that matter now, and I cant stand it.

I imagine the majority of you guys smoke, drink underage, etc. Are your guys parents really leaniant, or strict, or do you just not care about what they say? Im just not the type of person to do shit against my parents will just to make them mad. I hate doing shit that I know makes them worry, or hurt, but yet im tired of this perfect little son persona ive been putting on, which actually untill recently was an accurate portrayal of my life for the most part.

This probably should have been put in the rant forum too now that I think about it, but ive typed far too much, and im far too tired now to cut and paste it elsewhere, so your going to have to deal with it.

[Nathan]

BTW, I feel in a way that post was rather deep, but yet at the same time I was so vague about so many things. I apologize, but I was trying to sum up everything, without going into too many details on anything.

By the way you describe it, your mother and my mother might be the same person.

Things are better now that I'm away at college, and I think thats the only reason they are better.

[BigDongedHoe]

Nathan you sound exactly like me, just my parents were never "over-protective" or strict with me for that matter ever. I was the portrayal of a perfect little son up until my freshman year of college. My parents know that I do shit but as long as I can still keep my pep and try to be a happy person in life they don't care.

Oh plus the fact that I smoke pot and you don't is different. Other than those differences we are somewhat similar.

[malice]

You have two choices Nathan, move out or do some crazy shit and start smoking crack and shooting up heroine. The second sounds like more fun to me and involves much less responsibility.

[ninjaface]

I dont smoke pot, but I do drink.... I have enough self control to say no...

Have you told her that exactly? If not, I'd try that. You should also tell her that you feel hurt by her lack of trust. If you're mom is a decent, rational person, she will believe you and probably apologize.

I have never really had to deal with any of that shit, though. I was the "good kid" and did next to nothing during highschool and my brother was the "bad kid". During college, though, I've been formally introduced to alcohol and weed. I probably smoke weed about once every 2 or 3 months and drink once about every 2 or 3 weeks. I told my parents that I drink occaisonally and that I've "tried" weed. I figure that's good enough. When I told them, they replied by saying, "Just be careful. If I have to get you out of jail I'm going to be very angry." So all in all my parents are cool.

[malice]

My mom just shook her head when I told her I was selling pot.

[Ironic Mustache]

My dad gives me weed but I'm a little older than you.

[MAGICLIT]

Yea, same here & vice versa, actually my step-dad is my best customer.

[bloodyfart]

if you dont like it, then move out.
your mom watches too much lifetime channel.

[the Butcher]

1) i know that you won't go start shooting up heroin, because you obviously know nothing about it. i'm basing that solely off the fact that you can't spell it. not being a dick, but moreso just pointing out the fact that you were truthful in what you were saying.

2) i live with my father, and he calls me his roomate, not his son. i never check in with him when i leave, i never talk to him, i come home as late as i want, sometimes not at all...so i'd say he's pretty lenient. in the words of the illustrious titan, i do whatever the fuck i want.

Originally posted by malice:
My mom just shook her head when I told her I was selling pot.

3) that made me laugh harder than anything has today.

[malice]

Originally posted by bloodyfart:
if you dont like it, then move out.
your mom watches too much lifetime channel.

Lifetime should be banned.

[Repugnant Abomination]

Banned from being banned that is!

[bloodyfart]

lifetime channel- "we turned victim mentality into a network"

[Repugnant Abomination]

lol so true.

[MAGICLIT]

I love Unsolved Mysteries on Lifetime, and the Amy Fisher Story

[bloodyfart]

i like the one with the bulemic breast cancer victim whose child is abducted by her abusive ex boyfriend turned stalker

[MAGICLIT]

there are so many of those, whats the title???(10)

[bloodyfart]

its called- "break out the bonbons, ladies,cause its time to wallow in the misery it is to have a vagina."

[MAGICLIT]

O, that is my absolute fave!

[Nathan]

My mom doesnt even watch tv so the lifetime thing doesnt quite apply. Nearly all of my friends do smoke pot, and my mom is honestly the reason I dont do it. She told me some really deep stuff relating to weed, and apparently its fucked up alot of my aunts/uncles life, some of my parents friends, and she mentioned some other stuff that id rather not discuss. I feel like smoking pot is one of the few things im not going to do, just for my mom's sake. I actually didn't like it all that much when I tried it anyways.

Theres few things I think I could do in my life that my parents would be REALLY disappointed in me for, and by the way my mom explained all these pot stories to me and such, that probably is high on the her list.

Anyways, im just gonna try to not let all the shit shes been telling me lately get to me that much. I know she means well, and shes just being a concerned mom.

On a good note, one of the things did mention in her long lecture/rant whatever you want to call it is.. the fact that may 21-27th, I believe, shes going to miami with my sister to help find her an apartment. Then like mid june till early july, shes driving down to miami to help move in my sister, and will be gone for like 3 weeks that time around.

Dad will still be home of course, but hes far less concerned about stuff, and usually has the "whatever" attitude about whatever I tell him im doing, and doesn't drill me with questions.

[Nathan]

Are you serious.. just this evening, 2 of my friends came over. We were downstairs about to head out to a local bar, where our friend's band was playing. My mom started talking to one of my friends, and somehow it turned into a lecture for the 3 of us on beer, weed, drunk driving, etc. She talked to us for like 30 minutes about this shit, even called in my dad to say some shit, what the fuck.

Shes seriously killing my summer, like I almost feel depressed now. Im sure she feels just great now though knowing she told us all this shit, but shes kliling me.

[Ironic Mustache]

[Nathan]

Screw you Ironic.

[Ironic Mustache]

I'm not trying to talk shit, but your problems are so ridiculously trivial. Don't let this kind of shit bother you, or when you have a real problem you're going to commit suicide.