The essential masculine ecstasy is in the moment
of release from constraint. This could occur when
facing death and living through it, succeeding in
(and thus being released from) your purpose, and
in competition (which is ritual threat of death). The
masculine is always seeking release from constraint
into freedom. The feminine often doesn’t understand
these masculine ways and needs.
Your basic motivation is to be released from constraint and experience the freedom on the other side. What are some of the most
common forms of masculine ecstasy? Orgasm is one. The typical masculine orgasm, as you probably know, involves a build-up of tension, or
constraint, until the dam finally breaks, and your tension and energy are
released. The post-orgasmic state is one of death-like peace, an emptiness
akin to a blissful oblivion. The masculine is always seeking this release in
one way or another.
Most sports provide this masculine thrill of release from constraint into
freedom. In football, for instance, the team with the ball is constrained
by the other team that is lined up in front and ready to block them. The
challenge is to break through the line and carry the ball to freedom. People with masculine essences become insanely emotional during this ritual
of challenge and release from constraint into freedom. And if the freedom
is achieved, men will shout and cheer, as if their deepest heart desire has
occurred—and it has. This breakthrough into freedom, however it occurs, is the main motive of the masculine. All masculine goals—at work,
on the meditation cushion, or on the football field—are directed toward
more freedom.
The typical masculine desire for freedom involves the feeling of death,
which is the ultimate masculine fear and freedom, in one way or another.
Orgasm is actually called petite mort or “little death” in French. You say
that you hope your favorite football team “kills” the other team, and you
celebrate your financial “killings” with great glee.
You are probably also familiar with darker aspects of the masculine
desire for freedom. War, which is motivated by the desire for freedom,
is a quintessential masculine pursuit. Most sports are ritualized war, but
actual war itself resonates with the core of most men. Even movies about
war—men being at their edge, giving it all they’ve got, up against death
itself, motivated by a higher cause—evoke intense emotion in men. The
capacity to face death for the sake of freedom, whether actually in war or
ritually on the football field or chess board, is the ultimate masculine act,
evoking men’s deepest emotions.
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