The Reddit thread is gold. Found this gem:
Girl poster: she was saying that many women are already uncomfortable, so please don't make it worse by doing something creepy (like asking her up to your room). she wasn't saying it was men's fault for the fact that women are uncomfortable, she was just stating the fact.
really, there are better and less creepy ways to ask a woman out than asking her to come to your hotel room in the middle of the night.
Guy poster: Have you ever BEEN to a convention? This happens ALL the time, by all genders.
I know any number of women who have expressed wanting to be propositioned in this or similar ways, by someone they had their eye on.
It's a red herring to say it's the situation, when so clearly it's whether or not she is attracted to the individual. I have heard the "creepy" line when a guy at a college asked a girl out on the quad, in the open, with tons of people about. It's not about enclosed space or open space, alone or with other people, middle of the night or middle of the day.
It's about whether she finds the guy attractive. End of story.
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