girlfriends and their attitude

[f3lix]

Some say I'm pussy-whipped. Her family says she has me wrapped around her pinky finger. I personally think I let my girlfriend get away with talking to me in a disrespectful tone. I want to have my own free time, but she gets upset and thinks that I don't want to see her, if I ask for it. Tonight, she called me, wanting to know where I was (assuming I was back from poker). I walked into my room to here my roommate talking to her and then lending me the phone. She, in a laughing manner, said "Fuck you." She was with a friend and a couple other people, having a dandy time on her spring break. I don't want to be spoken to like this anymore, and have talked to her once before about how I felt she is verbally abusive to me. She is very stubborn and always wants her way. I'm asking for thoughts on how to deal with this. I love her and care for her alot, but I hate when she speaks to me with complete disrespect. If it helps, she is a senior in high school and i've been dating her for over 2 years; she is attending BSU (where I am) this Fall.

[Ugly Bastard]

Lose the biotch!!!

-Ugly Bastard

[f3lix]

on what grounds

[Jesus Chrystler]

be a man. have some fucking pride. she doesn't respect you so fucking curb the bitch.

if you could PM me her number I'd appreciate it.

[BarryJive]

Dude, she is bad news bears man, having my girlfriend (of 2 years) go to college with me...ruined my first semester of college and everyday up until i broke up with her. Do you see yourself marrying her? My girlfriend was insanely jealous and i couldnt do anything without telling ehr first. So i said to meself..."Do I want to spend the rest of my life with someone so moody and controlling?" and the answer was no. So i broke up with her. The important thing Fthreelix is that you love her and aren't just saying that because you have been saying it for a while (if you have) or that you arent staying in the relationship just because it's comfortable. It's tough man, I know all about it.

[f3lix]

We've had our separations in the past, but found that we really want to be together. I am comfortable being with her, but that's not why i'm still with her. I don't really want to break up, I was more looking for a means of figuring out how to talk to her about it.

[BarryJive]

Dude...crazy ass bitch's do not listen...period...You gotta ask yourself...Do you have a crazy ass bitch on your hands?

[f3lix]

I don't think I do; she has lacked discipline in her household, which is probably the reason for her actions.

[Mr. Blonde]

Originally posted by BarryJive:
Dude...crazy ass bitch's do not listen...period.

hahahahahahahahah

[BarryJive]

Man, I hate to see this happen tou you cause it almost happened to me. I am twenty years old and had things went the way I thought they were because I thought I loved my ex-girlfriend, I would have been a divorcee by the time I was 23. Lookout dude, if she doesn't make you happy you are just going to start to resent her and that will inevitably be the end of it. I know it's hard to give up what you've been building for the last two years, but is all the building you've been doing worth a lifetime of tearing down? I don't think so man.

[Orgazmo]

Felix, I'm going to levy some advice that you probably won't think is given with a serious tone. I assure you this is not the case.

Relationships are as quite complicated. Their multi-dimensional nature makes them more than a little difficult to figure from time to time. This is my assessment of relationships in your situation's dimension.

In a perfect relationship (solely in regards to the topic which you've brought forth), the respect level between partners would be mutually 'maxed out.' This would include trust, non-bitchiness, and lack of "fuck you"'s from both parties. Just because this is the ideal way to be doesn't necessarily mean it's the only way, though. You see, the fact of the matter is that most relationships aren't that way...and that's fine...so long as you have less respect for her than she does for you. Allow me to explain.

Relationships are about dominance. Without the "perfect respect level" idea intact, it is impossible for the relationship to be equal. Basically, unless you both respect each other completely, one or the other is the dominant member. Being the non-dominant member in the relationship can't be fun. Because of this, and because it is quite difficult to maintain a perfect respect-level in a relationship, the key to a good relationship is finding a mate you can dominate. It is absolutely imperative that your companion yields to you 100%. Unless this is the case (and, again, unless you have the perfect relationship), it means you are the one being dominated. The fact that you've been in this position for 2 years means that you've basically told her that you're fine being in the dominated position. The longer that you stay in the dominated position without fighting back, the harder it's going to be to break your unspoken title.

Here comes the actual advice, Felix. In order to shed your title of 'Dominated,' you must trump her verbal abuse. What's the only way to trump verbal abuse? Physical abuse.

I'm sorry, Felix, but you're going to have to start hitting her. Doing this will completely pass over her current position, putting you in the king's throne. Because physical abuse cannot be surpassed (from a disrespect standpoint), once you've started physically abusing her there is nothing she can do to counteract the disrespect level (because, as we've already discussed, it's impossible to have an equal respect level so long as the levels aren't 100% respect from both parties). She'll either decide to live for the rest of her life as you have the past 2 years...or she'll leave the relationship (tail between her legs, a loser in the game of love).

You musn't make a gradual move or she'll see it coming. You need to move with haste. If she makes the leap to physical abuse before you, I'm afraid that you're only option will be terminating the relationship (or being a bitch for the rest of your life).

I trust you'll make the right decision, Felix.

[Ugly Bastard]

He's right, you know, f3lix. You know?

-Ugly Bastard

[Mr. Blonde]

This worked wonders with me and Ugly Bastard. Isnt that right, Gimp?

[St. Anky]

Originally posted by Gaz:
Here comes the actual advice, Felix. In order to shed your title of 'Dominated,' you must trump her verbal abuse. What's the only way to trump verbal abuse? Physical abuse.

AHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!! I laughed my fucking ass off when I read that Gaz. My god that was hilarious.

Anyways, Felix, to respond. You seem to be in a situation where your girlfriend is probably just trying to get attention from you. Maybe she uses the abuse to see if you really care. Be a bitch to you just to see how much shit you'd take. And if you keep taking it, at least she knows you care enough to put up with her constant menstruation bullshit.

You mentioned something about asking for advice on how to confront her with your problem. Well, here's some advice. The next time you guys are in bed, bend her over, rear back and punch her square in the back of the head and then, afterwards, pull her hair. Right after the blow, whisper in her ear, "you like talkin like a bitch, I'm gonna treat you like one." Now here's the important part. Take your man-sword and sheath it into her asshole. Don't lube it up and don't even ease it in. Rip her a fucking new one. I guarantee she'll submit. She sounds hardcore, so give her what she wants. Ever seen Saving Silverman? I'm picturing your girl as being something like that. Hope I could help.

[Saint DH]

The best way to go about abusing your significant other is to make it look like an accident. That way you don't get in trouble. I've given my g/f a concussion before on "accident."

[Orgazmo]

Originally posted by Dirty Harry:
The best way to go about abusing your significant other is to make it look like an "accident."

Yeah, I can vouch for this technique. It doesn't sound like much, but one evening I hit my girlfriend square in the head with the remote control 3 or 4 times. Each time I simply apologized and said it was an accident and she completely believed me. I mean, how the fuck do you accidentally throw a remote control at someone's head? Who knows. Girls can quite gullible. Use this to your advantage.

[Cocktooth]

Hey you see my friend i once to dated a girl like this from BSU....my advice...get the fuck out before she does and then your left with your hand on you cock going...what the fuck happened....its not pretty!!! and i have just takin my hand off that cock about 2 months ago....trust me...you will love me for this one

[rla128]

The more I hear about everyone's problems with their girlfriends/boyfriend, not having ever had anything like those problems, the more I think my girlfriend is the greatest girl in the world...

Yep.

And, if she won't listen to you when you make a very valid request, repeatedly, why stay in that relationship?

[f3lix]

I'm not going to physically abuse her, I am not that way towards anybody. I appreciate the various means of help you've offered, some of it is quite amusing.

[AcTivE]

hit her with a bat. then the bat would be the one doing the abusing.

[Cocktooth]

I say just break up with her...your young and will find MANY ladies....i couldnt be happier with where im at....shit its been the best month of my life....break up with her..go out and meet some girls that dont bitch...those are easy to find if you just leave the bitchy one behind..i promise!

[Scarlet]

I can't believe that all you guys(Orgazmo, Active ,Ugly, Dirty) actually think that abusing someone, anyone especially a woman is right. Well im hear to tell you its wrong. I don't understand how you can be with someone and say you love them yet beat them all the same. I hope F3lix that you are better than that. My advice to you about your girlfriend is to talk to her about how you feel. If she still thinks that this is not a mutual relationship and that both partners have needs, then I say time has come to be at the end of the rope and you just have to let go and move on. Take some time and really think about what you really want and need in your next relationship before you dive in. This time you won't spend two years realizing that this person is not the right one for you. I hope this really helps you make the right desision.

[Ugly Bastard]

Originally posted by Scarlet:
I can't believe that all you guys(Orgazmo, Active ,Ugly, Dirty) actually think that abusing someone, anyone especially a woman is right. Well im hear to tell you its wrong.

I take a bat to girls who speak to me in that kind of tone.

-Ugly Bastard

[underwater]

anybody takes a bat to me, i'll rip their balls out through their eye sockets.

[Saint DH]

It's like I told my g/f tonight, "accidents do happen."