So this weekend my friend...we'll name here "Jessica"...came to visit me at BSU. A little background on this little lady.
We met about a week before I came to college about two years ago at a party of a friend of mine's back home in elkhart. She knew my best friend, and he introduced us, and we ended up getting drunk and hooking up that night...nothing really serious. Anyways, I went to college, and we still talked, and dated a little whenever I came home and visited and such, but it never got too serious, in fact back then I was an emotional little bitch and we never went past making out. We stopped "seeing each other" or whatever you want to call it, but we still talked a lot online and visited each other whenever I came home, or she was around the BSU area...which was like once.
So things continued like this, and we have become very good friends over the past two years. We tell each other about our relationship problems, who we have been talking to lately, yada yada so on and so forth. Now pretty much ever since we stopped seeing each other i've still had a crush on her, but I have this sense that, while it comes in handy, sometimes it leads to my own folly. Some of you ladies in the audience probably would be happy to know more guys like this. I'm sure quite a few of the nubblite men have this sense as well, as most of you seem like intelligent men. ANYWAYS, even if like a girl, I can usually pick up whether or not they like me as well, or are at least interested in me at all. Body language, things they say, just overall reading their actions. So I usually know when or when not to make moves on girls that I am talking to...i.e. whether she has decided to be friends or not. I do not like putting others or myself in uncomfortable situations, and usually do everything within my power to avoid such a situation. Therefore, if I can sense even slightly that a woman is not interested in me, I do not make a move. Unless I am drunk and don't care. The friend thing, as I'm sure most guys who are reading this agree with, is always a very, very confusing thing to pick out when you just start hanging out with a girl, or you start to like a girl you have always been friends with. For those girls who don't know what I mean by this, and those guys who have never really thought about it, I give you this site,
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Back to the story. My friend "Jessica" and I, although we have been dating lately and telling each other about it, have also started to talk a lot more as opposed to what we have been lately. She told me a couple weekends ago that soon she is going to come down to one of my rugby games here at bsu, and naturally, I was excited at the prospect of her coming down for the first time solely to see me. At this point in the story I will throw out the fact that "Jessica" is probably one of the most attractive girls I know. She has a gorgeous petite body, beautiful face, and awesome personality...she's all around cool as hell, and there is almost never any drama with this girl.
This past thursday she tells me that she may come down this weekend (this last weekend), just for a night, because she had nothing else to do and she proclaimed "I reaaaallly want to see you!" She says that a couple friends of hers will be coming down on Saturday night, so my roommates were excited as well. Turns out none of her friends could go, and she almost didn't come at all. Thanks to my charm and wit (...), she thought about it and found one of her male friends to drive down with her, who luckily went off and did his own thing once he got here. I went to pick her up(she looked gorgeous as usual), had her follow me back here, and we started drinking. However, because of her problem finding friends to come down with, she did not arrive in Muncie until approximately 11:30 pm. And since I had to pick her up, I had to stay sober. I am
never sober at 11:30 on a Saturday night. I'm never sober at 7:30 on a Saturday night. We played a couple rounds of beer pong with my roommates and some friends at our place, then hung out and drank for a while more before going out to a few of my friend's houses. Saturday night here kinda sucked, and there was really nothing fun going on, especially since it was about 1:30-2 before we really got out anyways.
"Jessica" is a very flirtacious and touchy gal. After multiple straddling occassions as well as some leg-rubbing and such during a whole night, a guy, especially a drunk guy tends to get certain ideas in his head. We ended up coming back and chilling for a while, before going upstairs to watch a movie.
-Usually, when I have a girl back at my place, its late at night, and we're both at least semi-drunk, it always turns out well for me.-
However, it was about 3:30 when we went upstairs to watch the movie, and she hardly got any sleep the night before because she was out. After about 15 minutes she had fallen asleep in my lap, and I was damn near comatose myself. I proceeded to turn off the TV and wake her up telling her it is time to go to bed. We make our way into my bedroom (really, it's a closet, but my closet is 3 sq. ft. bigger than one of my roommates entire room, except for the ceiling which is low and slanted...but it's huge. Also crucial to the story is that I put my old twin bed and my new full size bed side by side in my closet, so over about 2/3 of the closet is completely mattress.)
We get into my room and I go outside while she changes and then I come in and change, and she finds my closet setup amusing and asks "so which side do you usually sleep on?" Thinking nothing of the question more than pure curiousity, I tell her "the full bed". She then proceeds to jump on the twin bed and say "Let me try this one out"
Fuck.
She then proceeds to get under the covers, and at this point, i'm way too tired and drunk to be thinking anyways, so I just say fuck it and go to sleep. On my side of the bed. Far away from "Jessica", and her near naked body, which is where I
should have been. We both proceed to pass out. About 4 hours later my alarm goes off (she had to leave by 8:00. Yes, she got there at 11 at night and had to leave at 8 in the morning. I don't even think I'd do that for a hot girl, let alone a friend which is apparently all we are, how was i supposed to judge this situation?) She gets dressed and we hang out and chit chat for a bit before she has to leave. I walk her out to her car and say thanks for coming, and make sure to keep my distance from the car, so she doesnt think I am trying to get a goodbye kiss or something (Like I said, I try not to make people feel uncomfortable as often as possible). She gets in, thanks me for inviting and letting me stay with her, and leaves. I go back upstairs and play Halo for an hour, venting my frustration and confusion about the previous night/morning onto the Covenant and Flood, then go to sleep for the rest of the day.
She also says she is coming down this next weekend with her friends to party and either the weekend after that or the next one after to watch a game of mine and stay here and party. What in the fuck is going on?
I have several possible explanations for the events that happened.
A. The night before she came here, when she was out partying late, because of her flirtacious and openly hot self, she and some friends partied with some guys they hardly knew, and slept in the same bed with one of them because it was that or the floor. The guy took this as an invitation to mess around with her, and she declined, and therefore he got really pissed and she left the room. She ended up having to sleep on the floor or something and called me really late that night, crying and drunk, telling me about the situation, although I couldnt make much out until she told me the next day. So perhaps she was a little shook up about previous night and did not want the same thing to happen tonight, and is sick of guys wanting her for nothing but play (even though i've known her for 2+ years).
B. She thinks of me as a friend and nothing more. A friend who she comes down to visit nearly 3 hours away for a 9 hour period, 4 of which were spent asleep. Those 9 hours were not counting the 3 hours here and back. I simply don't know what to think.
C. She was very very tired and just went to sleep on the other side of the bed because she did not want me trying to do anything (which i probably would have) because she just wanted to sleep and nothing else.
There are probabaly a few other reasons as to why what happened happened, and I am still sorting them out. I suppose if she visits this weekend, I will see if the actions are repeated then will hopefully be able to deduce what her attitude towards me is.
The thing is, i'm not hurt or sad or anything about the situation...she's a flirt and isnt very good at keeping serious relationships, and plus she's 3 hours away now and will be at IU next year. Not worth a relationship try-out to me. However, she is extremely attractive and I am at the point in my life where I want to mess around with any female that is hot, and want nothing more. Granted, if she wanted a relationship I would try to comply, because she's just that hot, but I don't see her wanting that.
Sure, our friendship would probably be better off if nothing happened between us, but fuck that, she's hot and if I have the chance to do anything with her, i'm going to.
Any fellow nubblites care to offer any insight on the matter? Because i'm fucking lost.