the lust for the pain of love - Nubblies.net Forums

malici · 03-18-2004, 10:51 PM

I have been noticing more and more people "going out" with people they can barley stand. All of this just so they dont have to be single, never mind happiness since in the teenage world that tends to be unobtainable or just unnecesary. My question to whom ever has the time to read this pointless topic is why do we as a group feel that we have to fullfill the lust for love despite that love may have little to nothing to do with the relationship we are in? is the search for love even profitable or is it just another fairytale our elders have told us to give us hope. malici

Cocktooth · 03-18-2004, 11:09 PM

its sex...its all about sex...thats all that matters anyway...am i right...i sure am!

VOL · 03-19-2004, 12:13 AM

In a way you are right Shaw. Though I feel that nature says we have a need for lust and those sort of feelings and what not. It's a part of who we are as people. It does irritate me when people (mostly women) feel so insecure that they have to have someone. So in essence, I think it is just human nature.

underwater · 03-19-2004, 01:16 AM

it makes absolutely no sense to me for someone to go out with a person they can't stand

of course.. unless it was a guy going out with a girl they couldn't stand.

then i would have to agree with shaw that it was all about the sex... which is absolutely terrible

the search for love is definitely profitable.. unless of course you never find it. in which case..... uh. yeah. i don't remember what my point was going to be. but i had one. promise.

Beebs · 03-19-2004, 03:44 AM

If there is any genetic componant at all it makes perfect sense, the people who are genetically inclined to be in relationships, eventually leading to children, will have more children and that gene will become more numerous.

sim_flex_x · 03-20-2004, 06:29 AM

i'm guessing bio, pre med, or psych major. do i win?

BrassMonkees · 03-20-2004, 03:23 PM

I'd have to disagree with the belief that its genetically inclined...I'd lean more towards a person's upbringing. The father figure has a huge effect on a women's choice in males. If he is absent, unaccepting, unloving, or whatever, women often try to seek acceptence and love in some other form. Usually through another male. THis leads to them dating around and always feeling the need to have a guy in their lives.

Cocktooth · 03-20-2004, 04:14 PM

well shit i need to find those girls....cause there isnt any girls that need this guy in their life....kinda sucks!!!

sim_flex_x · 03-20-2004, 05:42 PM

I agree with Beebs and Brass. Brass's explaination makes sense, but there is a genetic side to it as well. It doesn't explain who a female is attracted to, but it does have something to do with them always wanting to be with someone--to an extent.

underwater · 03-20-2004, 06:07 PM

ugh. i am one of those girls.

and what the heck.. there are a LOT of those girls... must not be looking in the right places jerad

Beebs · 03-20-2004, 09:20 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by sim_flex_x:
i'm guessing bio, pre med, or psych major. do i win?

If you're talking about me, no you do not win. I am a business major, but I have taken genetics and evolution.

Beebs · 03-20-2004, 09:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by BrassMonkees:
I'd have to disagree with the belief that its genetically inclined...I'd lean more towards a person's upbringing. The father figure has a huge effect on a women's choice in males. If he is absent, unaccepting, unloving, or whatever, women often try to seek acceptence and love in some other form. Usually through another male. THis leads to them dating around and always feeling the need to have a guy in their lives.

Thats probably closer to whats actually going on, I was just saying if it was in fact geneticly based, it makes sense.

sim_flex_x · 03-21-2004, 04:11 PM

well sheeet, I suck.

George Sherman · 03-22-2004, 12:19 AM

Well, I am in love, I can't explain how it makes me feel, its just amazing though, It definitely isn't some fairy tale that our elders speek of, its out there you just have to find it.

03-18-2004, 10:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
malici Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: some where in kos. Posts: 27 Internets: 10	I have been noticing more and more people "going out" with people they can barley stand. All of this just so they dont have to be single, never mind happiness since in the teenage world that tends to be unobtainable or just unnecesary. My question to whom ever has the time to read this pointless topic is why do we as a group feel that we have to fullfill the lust for love despite that love may have little to nothing to do with the relationship we are in? is the search for love even profitable or is it just another fairytale our elders have told us to give us hope. malici
	not a single man should try to beat all mighty malici

03-18-2004, 11:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
Cocktooth Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Warsaw Posts: 4,220 Internets: 124047	its sex...its all about sex...thats all that matters anyway...am i right...i sure am!
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03-19-2004, 12:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
VOL Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: there Posts: 2,305 Internets: -205	In a way you are right Shaw. Though I feel that nature says we have a need for lust and those sort of feelings and what not. It's a part of who we are as people. It does irritate me when people (mostly women) feel so insecure that they have to have someone. So in essence, I think it is just human nature.
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03-19-2004, 01:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
underwater Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: indiana Posts: 1,453 Internets: 10	it makes absolutely no sense to me for someone to go out with a person they can't stand of course.. unless it was a guy going out with a girl they couldn't stand. then i would have to agree with shaw that it was all about the sex... which is absolutely terrible the search for love is definitely profitable.. unless of course you never find it. in which case..... uh. yeah. i don't remember what my point was going to be. but i had one. promise.
	We can dance if we want to, we can leave your friends behind, because your friends don't dance and if they don't dance then they're no friends of mine.

03-20-2004, 03:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
BrassMonkees Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: winona lake Posts: 840 Internets: 10	I'd have to disagree with the belief that its genetically inclined...I'd lean more towards a person's upbringing. The father figure has a huge effect on a women's choice in males. If he is absent, unaccepting, unloving, or whatever, women often try to seek acceptence and love in some other form. Usually through another male. THis leads to them dating around and always feeling the need to have a guy in their lives.
	neither here nor there...

03-19-2004, 03:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
Beebs Poor Sport Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Indianapolis / Middlebury / Long Lake Posts: 5,306 Internets: 127341	If there is any genetic componant at all it makes perfect sense, the people who are genetically inclined to be in relationships, eventually leading to children, will have more children and that gene will become more numerous.

03-20-2004, 06:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
sim_flex_x Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: St. Pete Posts: 690 Internets: 10	i'm guessing bio, pre med, or psych major. do i win?

03-20-2004, 04:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
Cocktooth Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Warsaw Posts: 4,220 Internets: 124047	well shit i need to find those girls....cause there isnt any girls that need this guy in their life....kinda sucks!!!
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03-20-2004, 05:42 PM	#9 (permalink)
sim_flex_x Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: St. Pete Posts: 690 Internets: 10	I agree with Beebs and Brass. Brass's explaination makes sense, but there is a genetic side to it as well. It doesn't explain who a female is attracted to, but it does have something to do with them always wanting to be with someone--to an extent.

03-20-2004, 06:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
underwater Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: indiana Posts: 1,453 Internets: 10	ugh. i am one of those girls. and what the heck.. there are a LOT of those girls... must not be looking in the right places jerad
	We can dance if we want to, we can leave your friends behind, because your friends don't dance and if they don't dance then they're no friends of mine.

03-21-2004, 04:11 PM	#13 (permalink)
sim_flex_x Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: St. Pete Posts: 690 Internets: 10	well sheeet, I suck.

03-22-2004, 12:19 AM	#14 (permalink)
George Sherman Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Fullerton & Damen Posts: 1,109 Internets: 14	Well, I am in love, I can't explain how it makes me feel, its just amazing though, It definitely isn't some fairy tale that our elders speek of, its out there you just have to find it.
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