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[DDTempest]

Originally Posted by Ironic Mustache

DDTempest, if you're finding that many girls that can't get you off then you should probably consider the fact that it's at least some of your fault. Even the most sexually inept girls in the world still wield a very powerful weapon: a vagina. If you can't just lay her down and make it happen for yourself, then there's probably a psych issue that's messing it up for you. I'd seek out that issue and get it under control. Sex is awesome.

I'll give you their numbers, you can call them up, fuck them, and come give me a report. Some girls are just bad at sex. It might just be the kinds of girls I end up meeting.

Add bad sex in with the general emotional drama included in spending any amount of time with 95% of women and its just not worth the effort. I love sex, but I love not having to deal with bullshit even more, so I keep my options completely open.

A lot of meeting women has to do with making it clear you are available and looking. If you have sex on tap, you are less prone to project that you are searching, and less likely to send the right signals. If you are out with said disposable sex kitten, you aren't going to meet anyone new. If you can keep yourself from becoming complacent and "settling" for whatever is familiar and you can control your subconscious well enough to still project "available and searching" then props to you, I am not that powerful.

[Heaven Can Wait]

Obviously I don't have enough experience identifying Hawaiian people, I still see asian's.

[Ironic Mustache]

Originally Posted by DDTempest

A lot of meeting women has to do with making it clear you are available and looking. If you have sex on tap, you are less prone to project that you are searching, and less likely to send the right signals.

I have to disagree here. Women want what they can't have. I've had more vag try to jump in my lap while in a relationship, than ever when I'm single. There's even an episode of Seinfeld where George wears a wedding ring in order to test the theory out. It's legit.

[DDTempest]

Originally Posted by Ironic Mustache

I have to disagree here. Women want what they can't have. I've had more vag try to jump in my lap while in a relationship, than ever when I'm single. There's even an episode of Seinfeld where George wears a wedding ring in order to test the theory out. It's legit.

You get the same result when you convey that you are single, looking, and not interested in them.

[Ironic Mustache]

I agree, but you were saying that you needed to be single and putting out the vibes" that you're looking. I took that to mean that you were showing interest.

[Pliedes]

Originally Posted by Ironic Mustache

There's even an episode of Seinfeld where George wears a wedding ring in order to test the theory out. It's legit.

Isn't there also an episode where George does the opposite of everything he'd normally do? Instead of acting interested, act uninterested. Instead of being nice, be mean.

I've had a lot of success with this method. Sometimes you just need to make them work as hard as you already are....

[Cocktooth]

Originally Posted by Repugnant Abomination

Even Hefner has married. There are needs humans have that can't be met with superficial relationships. You can make something of yourself and live a good life - a better life - with someone you love and who loves you.

Saying being married is a better life is only your opinion. Draw 2 circles that connect towards the middle. Right down the things about marriage that are good and are bad. I'm telling you right now, their are more downfalls to marriage then positives.

[Mr. Blonde]

Originally Posted by DDTempest

If you can keep yourself from becoming complacent and "settling" for whatever is familiar and you can control your subconscious well enough to still project "available and searching" then props to you, I am not that powerful.

I never used to have this trait but I now have it. I recently cut off a "relationship" with a girl who was awesome, pretty hot, who I had awesome sex with. I was able to realize that I was "settling" and "getting comfortable" and she was getting all emo looking deep into my eyes and long hugs and shit, and realized it was time to gtfo or this girl was gonna be my gf in about a month.


UB and I talked about something recently, a relatively new (to me, at least) trick that girls are doing to trap guys into relationships. I haven't named it yet, mostly because i'm kinda drunk, but if I were to right now, it would be called the "faux-detached act" Basically you start hanging out/fucking a girl, she acts completely awesome, doesn't push a relationship, doesn't get upset when you hang out with the boys, but if you are smart enough, you can still spot the telltale signs that she's still just an emotional whore looking to lock you down. She'll keep up this act until she is able to manipulate you into thinking that she's "special", and make you think it was YOUR idea to get into a relationship, and *BANG*, she has you. Watch out for this one, its how most guys get snagged. They alllllways change once labels are involved.

[Mr. Blonde]

Originally Posted by Shaw

Saying being married is a better life is only your opinion. Draw 2 circles that connect towards the middle. Right down the things about marriage that are good and are bad. I'm telling you right now, their are more downfalls to marriage then positives.

I agree. This goes back to what I was saying earlier, about us being practically conditioned our entire lives to believe finding 'the one' is our true purpose in life. "Nobody wants to die alone", repug? Says who?

Originally Posted by Repugnant Abomination

Two, five, ten years from now, once you've all met your match and are in a long term, happy relationship, you'll look back and realize you were wrong. Or you'll end up like "Walt" here - a bitter, barely middle aged anymore bachelor. But regardless of which path is in your future, you'll never stop seeking companionship, and I think that is the most telling fact of all.

What in the FUCK makes you think YOU wont' look back and realize YOU were wrong? I can tell you this, my friend, there are FAR many more examples of men in their 30s/40s/50s looking back and telling the younger generations, "fuck, I shouldn't have gotten married so early/married AT ALL" than there are saying "man, I really wish I would have gotten married and had kids sooner." Say of Walt what you will, but if he's nailing married bitches at hotel bars as much as he says, i can't say I disagree with that lifestyle.
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Also, whats this "you'll never stop seeking companionship?" You mean long term companionship? Because I stopped seeking companionship a while ago, and I gotta tell ya, it feels fantastic. The "need" for companionship is nothing but admitting that you can't make it by yourself. Which, for some people like F3lix and apparently you, is fine, but I'd rather not depend on someone else for my happiness/livelihood/and lifestyle. kthx.

[DDTempest]

Originally Posted by Mr. Blonde

What in the FUCK makes you think YOU wont' look back and realize YOU were wrong? I can tell you this, my friend, there are FAR many more examples of men in their 30s/40s/50s looking back and telling the younger generations, "fuck, I shouldn't have gotten married so early/married AT ALL" than there are saying "man, I really wish I would have gotten married and had kids sooner." Say of Walt what you will, but if he's nailing married bitches at hotel bars as much as he says, i can't say I disagree with that lifestyle.

There are not far more anything. All you have is anecdotal evidence because complaints register louder than silence. A happily married man doesn't regret his decision. A man that married a stupid bitch does. Anyone that made the wrong choice for themselves is going to regret it. Its starting to look like a circle jerk stalemate here with everyone trying to justify their own choices and get others on board. Hendrix said it best: "I'm the one that's got to die when its time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to."

You are also forgetting men look back on everything with delusions of grandeur:

YouTube - Back in 82'

YouTube - Back in 82'

[Mr. Blonde]

lol.



I can assure you, if i'm ever like that, I give any/all members of the board full permission to assassinate me.

YouTube - Knocked Up - Marriage is LIke Everybody Loves Raymond

YouTube - Knocked Up - Marriage is LIke Everybody Loves Raymond

[hfam95]

+1 to Mr. Blonde. He gets it.

[Repugnant Abomination]

Originally Posted by Mr. Blonde

What in the FUCK makes you think YOU wont' look back and realize YOU were wrong? I can tell you this, my friend, there are FAR many more examples of men in their 30s/40s/50s looking back and telling the younger generations, "fuck, I shouldn't have gotten married so early/married AT ALL" than there are saying "man, I really wish I would have gotten married and had kids sooner." Say of Walt what you will, but if he's nailing married bitches at hotel bars as much as he says, i can't say I disagree with that lifestyle.
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Also, whats this "you'll never stop seeking companionship?" You mean long term companionship? Because I stopped seeking companionship a while ago, and I gotta tell ya, it feels fantastic. The "need" for companionship is nothing but admitting that you can't make it by yourself. Which, for some people like F3lix and apparently you, is fine, but I'd rather not depend on someone else for my happiness/livelihood/and lifestyle. kthx.

Why so angry, Blonde? There's no need to shout - it frightens me. But seriously, I find this whole thing very perplexing. I don't agree with your notion that being in love is an admission that you can't make it on your own. Since when is wanting companionship such a knock on someone? There are a number of us on the board who are in long term, happy relationships, like Gaz, IM, and myself; do you really think we're weak or pathetic for it? I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy, but I find it makes me even happier.

I think it's funny that I'm the one being called emo here. You (and a few others) are being the angsty, women don't understand me ones. You're like those proud, black, single women, who talk about how they don't need a man and they buy their own clothes. Well, more power to you, sista.

I know there are a lot of dumb, obnoxious women out there, and that they aren't worth your time. But there are also a lot of worthwhile ones. Just because you haven't found her yet doesn't mean she doesn't exist. And honestly, I think some of you guys take your hate for women way too far. Calling you sexist is redundant - you've made this whole "women are dumb bitches" creed into a lifestyle that you think is somehow glamorous, or sets you apart, or makes you more of a man or something. It really just makes you sound like an asshole.

Also, while I'm sure you're digging your lifestyle, there are certain things about being in a relationship that you're missing out on. For one, I never have sex with a condom anymore, and it's obviously way better. I don't have to worry about STD's either. Also, I can have sex with someone I find very attractive whenever I want. I'm sure there are those nights you're feeling horny and just have to jack off into some crusty towel - well, some of us are getting busy with the real thing - every night.

[Mr. Blonde]

And what you sound as self-righteous and condescending as someone who has "found jesus" telling someone that, in time, they too will realize the folly of their ways. Which is ironic. I've said several times that my way isn't right for everyone, and thats probably what gets me the most...is that you think that you are "right" in maintaining and condoning a steady relationship, and that we are wrong, because companionship is what one is supposed to seek in life, because thats what you've been taught your whole life.


What i've said here isn't going to mean anything to you, while you're blinded by lovey dovey emotion. So I guess we'll just agree to disagree and wait.



On a lighter note, ID is in a relationship? I didn't know that. You mean Ironic?

[Repugnant Abomination]

Originally Posted by Mr. Blonde

And what you sound as self-righteous and condescending as someone who has "found jesus" telling someone that, in time, they too will realize the folly of their ways. Which is ironic. I've said several times that my way isn't right for everyone, and thats probably what gets me the most...is that you think that you are "right" in maintaining and condoning a steady relationship, and that we are wrong, because companionship is what one is supposed to seek in life, because thats what you've been taught your whole life.


What i've said here isn't going to mean anything to you, while you're blinded by lovey dovey emotion. So I guess we'll just agree to disagree and wait.



On a lighter note, ID is in a relationship? I didn't know that. You mean Ironic?

Well, I don't mean to sound preachy, but I feel like I have to match your strong rhetoric with some of my own.

And yeah, Ironic Mustache has been in a relationship for over two years I believe. He lives with her now.

[Mr. Blonde]

Originally Posted by Repugnant Abomination

There are a number of us on the board who are in long term, happy relationships, like Gaz, ID, and myself; do you really think we're weak or pathetic for it?

I was just saying, you said ID. And no I don't think you guys are pathetic. I just don't want to see you, or your bank accounts, nor your ability to sleep with hot women get hurt

[Repugnant Abomination]

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[Repugnant Abomination]

Originally Posted by Mr. Blonde

I was just saying, you said ID.

haha, what a silly mistake on my part. Can you imagine? ID, with a woman? The idea!

[Ironic Mustache]

She lives with me, not the other way around.

[Mr. Blonde]

Repug, I have it on good word you live with your girlfriend?

[Repugnant Abomination]

Nope. We've been together for about a year now, but we still have our own places. Even though I'm really committed to her I still recognize that people rush into these things too quickly. My biggest thing has always been going through all of the steps. If things work out we'll probably move in together next August, and by the time it will have almost been two years, which I think is a reasonable time frame.

[THEINCREDIBLEdork]

Has she let you try anal yet?

[Repugnant Abomination]

Inappropriate.

[Mr. Blonde]

i think its a valid question. a year and a half is a long time for no anal.

[Orgazmo]

Originally Posted by Repugnant Abomination

Inappropriate.

That's what she says when you ask? Or that's how you feel afterwards?